Starve the ego and feed the soul – True self VS False self

The ego is not who you really are. The ego is your self-image; it is your social mask; it is the role you are playing. Your social mask thrives on approval. It wants control, and is sustained by power, because it lives in fear. – Deepak Chopra

Conditioned by society

From the moment we are born we begin to move away from our true selves. Parents and society subconsciously mould us into something we are not. As we grow up we forget our inner child and what used to make us smile and move into the ego mind – the false self.  Our false self is always the ego mind. Our ego is fed by us living in our false self,  which we are not. Anytime you find yourself egotistic chances are you are now embodying your false self. The Ego moves us out of the heart space, to move back into your true self you have to become ego less.


“Only the heart can connect us, the ego separates. let love guide you not fear.”


Ego Self VS True self

As humans it is only natural to get defensive but the thing is if we have our guard up it is part of our ego coming out and it will move us more into our false self.
Growing up we were conditioned to live up to society’s expectation’s whether it is what we see in magazines or on the internet, Subconsciously we process this as what is right and start to compare ourselves with other’s based on physical aspects. Moving us out of the heart centre and living as a false version of our self. We have relied on our ego for so long as a false sense of protection. It is a paradigm, The only way to change this is by shifting the ego mindset and moving back into the heart centre.

When we crave other people’s attention we will generally not attract the right sort of people into our lives whether it is our social or personal life, you get what you give and if we live from an ego mindset – our false self – this is exactly what we will attract back.


Belief vs emotion

Really we are not 100% happy when we are living from the ego. Most of us do not know who we are because of how society has conditioned our thinking growing up. We care to much about what other people think and this is what is holding most of us back, because of fear of embarrassment or fear of not fitting in.

We are all equal, we are not higher or lower than no one!  

Once we stop caring what other people think of us we truly become free.
Our true self is a valuable part of our self.


You can not create anything positive and long lasting without integrity. By living and embodying your false self you are living with no integrity. It is important to always stay true to yourself, and love your self and your own company. No body will truly love you unless you love yourself. When you are living within your heart centre, which is your true self your life just begins to flow. You start to see the world and your place in this amazing world completely different, your purpose for being here will become a lot more clear. When you are living from your true self, you naturally start to realise your own inner potential and become a lot more being happy with who you are.


Paramahamsa Nithyananda Skeleton Dance – Integrity meditation

Paramahamsa Nithyananda presents a unique practice from the Agamas, ‘the skeleton dance’, to build integrity in the bone structure. Till now, the teachings on integrity were to practice integrity as a mental technique. But integrity is is a bio-memory stored in your bone structure, and in this video Paramahamsa Nithyananda gives integrity as a physical practice. Building integrity from the physical level is very powerful and fast, working from the inside out and pushing and manifesting in all aspects of life.
In the introduction to the technique, Paramahamsa Nithyananda also explains why we need integrity. With the power of integrity, everything we say becomes reality, even if it is not in line with the laws of physics and nature. Integrity itself is an important spiritual power, the power of words. And, our integrity is essential for receiving the initiations of the Master when he guides us into manifesting more and more powers. Since it is only through our integrity that the Master addresses us.

When introducing the technique, Paramahamsa Nithyananda gives this explanation: ‘You will visualise your skeleton structure. Without loosing power over your skeleton structure, you go on jumping, dancing for any song. Your body should be active, as many bones as possible should be moving, but your inner space should be holding the whole skeleton structure’s visualisation. It will almost be like a skeleton dancing. You will see in your inner space the skeleton dancing, but that cannot reduce the speed of your dance. Your movement should be there and the skeleton structure should be held in your inner space.’

If you want to try out this amazing guided meditation by Paramahamsa Nithyananda taken from the session for Manifesting Powers click here.

Stay true and stay you!

Thanks for reading, have an amazing day.


3 thoughts on “Starve the ego and feed the soul – True self VS False self

  1. This post really resonated with me. Recently I have been feeling confused and unsure about certain things and alot has to do with other people! Now I understand that I was living from my ego! From now on I am going to try and consciously live from the heart centre. Thanks Monique for another great article!


  2. Thank you for sharing. Even when we sometimes think we are acting in love, ego can easily be present. Great read and reminder to act selflessly in love. ❤️


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